A middle-aged colleague of mine at my placement was chatting about her son who is in a serious relationship. She was telling another colleague of how she thought young people shouldn't be too serious so early in the relationship. Dating more people and getting more experience is what young people need. I guess some, especially elders, would want us "young people" to get out and enjoy being young. Others, the traditional elders, reckon one should settle down with the first serious relationship you get into. There are so many influences that can impact a person's views on young marriage. Marriage may seem pressured for some.
Marriage should not be rushed. It should be thought about early in the relationship but it doesn't have to be set in stone. In a serious relationship, couples should have "the talk" where both express one another's wants and needs of the relationship. As well as their dreams, and long and short term goals. This is just my idea. I know everyone is different and no couples are the same. A person should marry someone who is supportive of the other person's dreams and goals, helping them through it and being there for them. Someone who almost has the same wants and needs as you do.
For me, I'm not constantly thinking about marriage. One second I would want something and the next it will be different. My views on marriage hasn't changed at all. Growing up I always wanted to marry at young age because that's just who I am. I want someone to settle down with, to be with the same person throughout my life, to know and understand them inside and out, to be surprised when I discover something new about them, and to have someone I can share my dreams with. I know that dreams aside, reality has to settle in. Before settling down you also have to think about your self-identity, financial issues, sacrificing certain things, etc. Do I feel like I'm missing out on life? I'm not sure. Does he feel the same? I know that I'm extremely lucky to have found someone who cares for me, who makes me feel safe, and who is always there when I need him. No relationship is perfect, there will always be ups and downs. In order for any relationship to work, both would have to put effort into it as well as growing together as a couple. This article pretty much sums it up. I'm both wary and excited for what my future holds.
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